Improve Your Communication Skills

Good Communication Skills Are Key

Have you ever played the game Telephone?  Where you start out telling one person a sentence and then they tell the next person, and they tell the next?  By the end of the line of people the sentence is, often, unrecognizable right?  Communication skills are a learned behavior.

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So why is this?  Is it simply a desire to tell the story better?  Or is it the way we heard the information to start with?  Maybe it’s that we aren’t very good at communicating.

Communication skills often aren’t taught they are learned behavior based upon what we see in childhood.   So if you have only negative examples of communication then your conversations might be a bit like the game of Telephone.

Negative Communication
So examples of poor communication skills include negative styles of communicating such as aggressive, passive aggressive, avoidance, sarcasm. blaming, having a bad attitude, and even the silent treatment.  All of these modes of communication aren’t designed to create a positive flow of emotional connection nor positive communication.

Causes of Negative Communication Skills
As I mentioned earlier, what we see in childhood is what we learn to emulate.  So if we saw our parents communicating in a negative way; maybe mom gave dad the silent treatment or dad avoided important conversations, this is the pattern in which we are most comfortable communicating.

Other causes include lack of self-care which leads to tiredness and that can make you snappy and or have a bad attitude.

A few articles ago we discussed how gratitude can affect a relationship positively.   So if you don’t have an attitude of gratitude then you might be snippy or even spoiling for a fight. When you’re looking for the negative that’s what you will find.

Some people in long term relationships, I’ve discovered through coaching, feel that their  if partner is committed to them they can get away with poor communication skills or bad behavior.  The justification being that the other person has to love them and put up with their bad as well as their good.

So how can you turn this around?

Improving communication skills
The number one thing to do for improving communication skills is to lead with respect.   A few articles ago we talked about how respect is an integral piece of the relationship foundation.  Always remember how much you respect the person you’ve chosen to be with in a relationship.

You can also improve communication skills by simply turning in your negative communication skills for positive ones!

Positive communication skills include active listening, learning to empathize, think before you speak, asking questions, sharing your feelings by saying, “I feel this way when you… (fill in the blank)”, and honesty.

JoyWork Suggestion:  Practice offering three gratitudes daily, work on your respect, take care of your self by increasing your self care to three things daily, and practice your “I feel” statements.  Let me know how you’re doing on the Accelerated JoyWorks Facebook page or in the comments below.

Leave me a comment below if you have any thoughts or questions.  You can also let me know if you have a subject you would like me to address in the next article.  Feel free to share this article with your friends and family or anyone whom you think might benefit.

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12 thoughts on “Improve Your Communication Skills

    • Stick around, Jessica, I’d love to help. In fact, there is a complimentary report coming up soon on communication that you might find helpful!

  1. Communication is so very important, and even more so with all the texting today. It’s true that much of how we communicate stems from our childhood, and if you don’t learn how this affects you/your relationships, then you might have problems forever … so tips like these are really helpful

    • Thank you so much! Stay tuned because I have some more tips coming at you on Sunday. You are so very right about how childhood influences our communication skills as well as style.

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